Since I’ve been married, I have learned to compromise and split holidays between my family and Mike’s (if we don’t have a 2 person meal). When we first got engaged, I insisted on spending the holidays with my family. Period. End of discussion. We were living in the same city as his parents, so I thought that the only “fair thing” to do was to pack it up and go see my family. I was selfish. I didn’t think about his mom’s feelings at all. I was stuck on what “we” always did in Conway. There was a lot of “well, MY mom does xyz. Does YOUR mom?” *shame face*
My mom (thank God) is a sensible, caring woman so she called me a few weeks before Easter of 2009 for a “come to Jesus” meeting. She told me that she was happy that I wanted to take her feelings into account, but I needed to work more on bonding with my new family. And that included Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter dinners. You can’t continue traditions or make new ones if no one is around. I’m not going to say this is a seamless process but we’re working on it.
I love this cute, printable poster!
Chic flowers made from paper bags! Yes…paper bags.